Gue pengen cerita dari pengalaman gue sendiri tinggal sama a NARCISSIST mother. For the past 3 years i lived with my mom (abroad i lived outside Indonesia) cause my parents are divorced, before that i grew up lived with my dad in indonesia till one day she came back and i thought dia seorang mama yg di-idamkan oleh anak” yg broken home . And i never thought moving in with her actually could ended up traumatizing my life. Here’s the story. When I was 14 me and my sister moved in with her, we got a nice treatments for atleast 3-4 months until then she changed into a whole diff person. She started to manipulate me n my sist obv. Setiap kali kakak ku atau aku yg buat kesalahan she would ancem and gaslight buat kicked us out whether it was a small or big mistakes. And she would asked us buat fucking bow at her when minta maaf. Mau gamau ya harus right? Ketika kakak perempuan ku nangis she would slapped her and told her seorang perempuan tidak boleh menangis. I also have a big brother we got along pretty well, but he lived with my mom for his whole life. Now let me tell you, my mom would nyuruh aku dan kakak ku bersihin semua rumah 4x seminggu kalo ga dikerjaiin ga dapet uang jajan or hp kita disita or both, she treated us kayak pembantu sedangkan my brother ga disuruh apa-apa. Like wtf??! Where’s the equal treatment?? Obv kalo kita mikir pasti dia lebih syg kakak gue yg cowok . Fast forward when i was 16 i got my first bf he was ok and we are in a ldr thingy. Now he was one or my ex. Aku introduced him to my mom and she was nice at my ex at first but then. After i dated him like for the past 6-7 months she started asked me his phone number, aku kasih karna aku nanya ex aku kalo dia keberatan ga no hpnya dimintaiin ternyata engga, (funfact mantan aku itu pelayanan di gereja jadi dia pinter ngmng)., now here’s the shocking part of it. My mom would called my ex subuh” dan fkng texted him talking shit about me diem” tanpa sepengetahuaan aku, how do i know? My ex told me about it and ofc I forced my ex to sent the chat screenshot. My heart broke into pieces dude ngl. And she was acting so fine about it the next morning. And my relationship became so toxic after that so i chose to ended it. Aku dapet kerjaan 5 hari selama 7 minggu and i was happy about it cause i was thinking about saving n other stuff with my own money, but u know what seorang mama minta saya buat paid a weekly rent and a phone bill, saya disuruh bayar seminggu $125. Sedangkan di posisi itu saya bukan dapet kerjaan tetap tapi kayak beruntung dapet summer intership buat student diumur yg sangat muda. Saya ga masalahin duit yg saya kasih cmn saya mikir ada ya seorang mama anggep anaknya kayak stranger, tinggal dirumah oke ada makanan dll tapi ga pernah diajak deeptalk ga pernah diajak belanja ga pernah peduliin emosi anaknya. Yang kita liat di film” ga seindah itu ternyata dan saya jujur mengalami experienced diatas sangat traumatic buat kehidupan saya dan sebenernya masih panjang banget. Tapi message yg ingin saya sampaikan jangan ambil pilihan buat jadi peran seorang ibu kalau mental belum siap. Dan anak tuh cuman pengen didengar bukan diberi judgement. But at the end gue cut off her contact idc shes very toxic and ruined my life so i ran away in the mid of the night moving out with the money that i saved, finish my high school n went back to Indonesia to lived with my dad. Even tho she got a cctv inside the house idgaf anymore gue mending chose buat healing diri gue dripada living inside a toxic environment yg ga healthy buat mental gue ujung”nya. Ini real ada di dunia nyata seorang mama kayak gini, bukan di film doang. Yang punya narcissist mother juga pasti ngerti yg gue alamin. Dah ini kayak crita reddit HAHAHAHA, makasih yak yg udh baca🙏🏻🙏🏻. Gbuu!!🤍.